He lives on the other side of the world. Off at his hotel and said, he is tired and we should meet up for dinner and i said, Ill come pick him up. Then former Marine finds him in Florida woods. Even if it hurts. I gave this relationship everything I had, I am guilty of ghosting a borderline personality disorder women. but still he ignored me. You have not heard from him? If he didnt reply and ended contact with no explanation, then I would not date him again! Here is what many women do not understand about some of us men. We spent a glorious night together, he left to go home for work in the morning. They have a lot more patience for men than most men deserve; you certainly dont need a man with a severe temper around- theres millions of us without that particular handicap. Am quite stunning, educated, with a good job and great conversation skills!!! The baffling thing to me is that hes still keeping me as a FB friend. Your relationship status should never determine your worth as a person. he even asked me to keep contacting me. She is as sweet as they come, pretty, and very dependable. One day, poof, he pulled away for no reason. And you were going to twist and attack the words of anyone that tried to help you. In this situation, he was dealing with a very sick parent, and as I said before, people deal with grief differently and there is no right or wrong way. His actions dont define me. We saw each other once or twice a week. Its been an entire night and all day and nothing. I have been seeing a Chief of Police who is 12 years my elder. Ive done this and I get how its confusing but we dont know what people have going on. Until that night. Sure, I was the Cool Girl with no drama, no neediness, but thats still not enough Btw, I found out that he got married soon after he emailed me. Of course, I fell in love with him too and completely head over heels. I honestly thought he would be the last person do that to me but I was so wrong. He talked and complained about work. Im curious.. Men often do this thinking it's nicer and less confrontational than some ugly emotional scene when you realize he's not going to stick around. Relationships can be beautiful, but the dating part before you have a real connection can be brutal. I cant believe I was so We dated heavily within the month, 12 dates to be exact. Even if you decide to text him after he disappears from your life, you should always have in mind your worth. and sometimes the more you learn the more you like her, but sometimes the more you learn the less you like her. He was different and I knew something was up. Then the next few days his texts were shorter. Dates ARE personal, and when a man disappears, its essentially saying, thanks but no thanks. Ick. I was in tears when I called him, I thought he would have the decency to at least call me back to clear the air! I reject good guys and then this is how I get treated. I have accepted the situation, the reality. You need to find a man, not a boy. Is everything ok? Lol Now usually when I give him a dose of his own medicine, he eventually comes sniffing around wondering why and wants to know how I could possibly be living without his presence. I started to feel like I had to message him first all the time. If theyre doing it because they dont wanna lose us, its a dull theory, Cause they just wouldnt do it in the first place if that was the case. I am very hurt and I did reach out on his birthday and said happy birthday and thats it. Now im actually in the process of talking to a guy that I want a relationship with. Thanks BLaw. Dated a guy for about 3 weeks, things were going well, he told me how much he liked me, he was the one to always initiate contact, and even ask me to go places with him, but he always cancelled, or went ghost on the dates that he ask for to begin with. I refuse to call or text him again, but i cant help but to feel extreme sadness and confusion. You finally got over your anger and rejection over the guy who disappeared on you out of nowhere and then he throws a curveball your way by coming back to life and texting you weeks or months after he went AWOL. How have you been? Hej [name]. So, I left him along for a few days. But the bottom line is he told you point blank he is not ready to offer you anything so you need to fall back. A man that is in love will stop at nothing to catch and KEEP the one he has fallen in love with. I know thats easier said than done, but please try even if just for me, some stranger on the internet. Like he did too and I could see myself with him. I met this guy and we instantly hit it off, went out for about a month everything was great we texted constantly throughout the day, everyday, then hed call me usually, everyday. Secret 1: He wants the validation of you like him. Completely blank, not a single word. Seems like maybe this ran its course. We met for coffee that Tue and I felt in my gut that something was different. A day later I sent him dome work photos with little to no reply. He said to come by his house with him and his friend. I just kept my feelings hidden. Be good to yourself.. Definitely there is something wrong with him. Once I got back I sent him a pic message and said oahu was fun :). Are you ladies really this dense? We talked basically everyday, even when traveling. I had one who wanted me to be his angel while HE pinned over his ex of 4 months. Youd probably want to get it out of your hands ASAP, right?! Text or call. This type of response is going to go a looooooong way for you because heres the thing hell either get defensive and bounce (in which case good riddance!) [repeat], Dont want you to be sad girl What you text a guy doesnt matter on the length, but rather the content and the wording of it. One minute, all fun and loving . He is not a stable person and MAY never be. The good news is, that doesnt diminish you and what you have to offer some other great guy. It was a fairy tale. in other words some women i have dated became less and less someone i could be with the more i got to know them. We held each other rubbed each other and eventually hooked up. And spent a few hours there, ate, had fun and came back around 7 pm and he drove, paid for everything. big halloween party at my friends place after dinner holding conversation becoming a little more difficult. Very early into our relationship he told me how much he cares for me and that he even loves me.. Ive never been in a serious relationship before so I was hesitant on what I felt but said I cared for him too to spare his feelings. I had a few dates that were rotten, once guy was nice buts just wants sex. Im saying if you didnt have at least few dates then there is no reason to feel a guy owes you any explanation(btw Im a woman and someone just vanished on me except he lives next door and that sucks), women do the exact same thing to guys, even more so in fact, since women will speak based on their mood that particular nanosecond (OMG i cant wait to hang out again! Look upon this as he senses you need more space and so hes creating this until you show you want to close the gap. My situation relates to yours very closely. I was confident Id see him again. I met a very young handsome and extremely wealthy guy. I dont want such a guy in my life. He is currently in the ignoring period again. He might do the slow fade out, meaning he stops initiating contact and when you reach out to him he takes hours or days to reply. Ive known a couple of old people who were married for fifty years and they would look at each other and still wonder Who the hell is this person? People are complex, we have our sets of issues and our own lives and we cant compare ourselves to others who appear to have perfect relationships when behind closed doors they are probably dealing with shit we dont know about. Im gonna feel better in no time, I hope. And he called me back that same night and even sent me a good morning Beautiful text but then as that day went on things became a little weird I started seeing him flirting with other girls on the gram and he started acting weirdI asked him if I did anything wrong he told me no. So at 530 pm last night (Friday) he messaged me back. Nothing. Hmmmm. Real relationships take time, lots of it. Monday gone I realised that he had deleted me off Facebook I sent him a hello message but he never responded, I am heartbroken and I dont know what happened He said on to give him about a week to get his stuff together and that he will call me and let me whats going on I told him. The Internet, social media, iPhones and all those techie dvices now make it easier to not-be-a-man. And he wouldnt stop chasing me after that. Should you give him some sass? But the mystery to me is why he cant handle being in a committed relationship. And there was no goodbye, no thank you said or anything. like you, i too, need closure from the guy. its one thing to fade after a first date- ive done that and i have it done to me many many times. We even talked for the first time about those times we hooked at parties. If, he decided that your night of drunkeness was too much for him he could have the courtesy to just say so. We did a few times but it was a big hassle for him because he is a light sleeper. It is as simple as that. He was always so communicative, so I really just want to know WHY? Move on. Then about two weeks later he deleted me on FB. As in, send a picturelol I have nice feet and it wasnt a big deal. We develop a nice friendship, he asks about details in my life, my kid, we joke, he really wants to see me. Time will push it either way. It means there are a lot of women out there looking for a lack of red flags rather than a REAL connection or real reason to fall in love. Not only with what he said, but his actions.. hed hold me in his arms, hold my hand, hed almost dig his face into the curve of my neck and inhale me (sounds weird but wasnt lol), kiss my forehead, kiss me, he never for one second gave me any doubt that he wasnt keeping me around. That might not be the case and his feelings may have been real but by disappearing that is how it feels. I knew he had a problem with depression as he had been thru an episode a few months back and came out the other side ok. Getting a text from your ex might bring up a lot of emotions depending on how you ended things. By Friday evening, I sensed something was up, so I phoned him and left a single message, really neutral just indicating I hadnt heard ROM him, etc. Period. Sometimes, it can be just testing your interest level, if they have reason to believe you may not be that into them. so I really like this new guy I met he likes me and his day s are busy with school work and some other stuff so I write something cuz he hasnt written me so I txt him ssayinh hi how are u hope ur not workin ya self to hard lol but I did want to ask u a question u can call or txt .nite later and he texts me back saying Even when we were mad at each other in the past, he never left me in a bad situation. No reasons seen no red flags of it happening. There is no God or supernatural force guiding this world. I met a neighbor who is very cute and my age. And one of my guy friends did it. Then it's important to respond to his text in a manner that's calm and positive, but highly assertive. He will be driven to stake his claim so there will be no risk of losing his prized person to another. Youre giving the guy in this situation way too much credit. Before you reach out, remember your relationship and think about how your ex makes you feel. He gave me his house address, out of a joke, and I delivered cakes to his home..personally, before I invited him off for a cup of coffee. Because it is SPOT on. I felt better when I confronted him because I have found there are lot of men or women that need to respect themselves and the other person even if you think there is going to be drama. I will never know, only he knows that, and he will be the one who has to ponder that. I figured he was just tired. Dont try to meet MEN or WOMEN, meet people instead. It turns you into another person, one that is always suspicious or insecure. I met this guy on tinder 6 months ago. Ignoring someone youve been dating for months is one of them. I like to think I have developed thicker skin over the years but something keeps nagging me this is so out of character? You tell yourself you cant understand it even though the red flags were very clear, which indicates your BS detector could use some fine-tuning. He was on the rebound. As it was me who sent the last email, and he didnt respond, Im staying quiet too. All seemed great! Was that a lie? ha! We chatted for 30 mins or so. No Emojis. I do miss him and he has done a lot for me through the last 4 years. Two years is a long time. ANNNNNNNND its gone. Im done online chatting/dating now, you just cant really know where someone is coming from honestly, they can be and do as they please,and you can never truly know. Im confused and hurt. For me, it was what I wanted. I called him like 3 or 4 times everyday for about 5 days, he didnt answer. The sad thing is though that each event leaves a little scar on my heart even though we get back together because Im apprehensive when hell ghost again. All I could think was WTF! In other words, he was looking for something casual. While your waiting around and to help distract you I strongly recommend you read Why Men Love Bitches it is soooo helpful and I guarantee you will be happy you read it. . Its the self doubt, the agonizing wondering of what we did to push them away which keeps us waitingWe keep hoping in a small part of our hearts that they will reach out to us, that they are just sorting things out and somehow when they do that, we will be validatedIts scary how such flaky, dishonest, cowardly behavior can reduce confident women like us to nervous wrecksJust let him go..It will hurt and you will miss himBut dont give in to the impulse to contact him anymore for itFor the sake of your own sanity and dignityIn my case, he contacted me on Monday (after my final text) acting all normal How have you been Sweetheart? I had no idea this happens this often. Once I came back off holiday and sour a month after the break up to talk. If he generally acts pretty interested in you and his excuse seems plausible, it's okay to give him the benefit of the doubt. We did get heavy too quick. Are you out of your mind? Sorry, Sabrina, I dont mean to cut in on you here, but here goes for all those gals with the recent posts out there in the dumps. It wasnt all great, every so often, especially when things were going well, hed throw a spanner in the works e.g suddenly accusing me of being unfaithful[totally untrue] and then not talk to me for a day or two. Its just a horrible conversation to have. Im not a pushy person, and this isnt something I suggested at all it was all him. And then the alarm goes off. We agreed on 3 months. We talked while he was away every day maybe twice I caught him in a lie about when he checked out of his hotel and wondered where he was? He's in the habit of texting you in the early hours, such as before bedtime or when he's partying with his friends. He sounds like a selfish jerk,no matter how sweet he might have been when things were new. Ive met one person in particular that Im really into, so well see what happens! We were talking and our conversation was fun and happy and then, because he works nights, we said goodbye. I would see him on facebook but not text me back and I got angry and blocked him. I sent him a couple of messages later that day.. No response.. A day turned into a week then two weeks and nothing.. then i decided that there was no point me wasting my time thinking of a guy who was not obviously interested in me. Hey, I can tell youre so preoccupied with things, which is fine. Feel free to go as crazy as you like in this letter. Did I do something wrong he pulled the disappearing act on me so after months I just assumed he just disappeared and moved on with my life. To use the expression you need to find a grown ass man lol. My guy text me and said he was in a foul mood and need time. If shes feeling you no matter what youre going through what youve been through she wants to be there. I had no other way to get into my house. Comfortable asking him. 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